We like making friendship sometimes with people we do not know and that is normal life. But even as we try to become friends, it is equally important to make sure this friendship has something in it that could help you or help your friend as well. Do not just jump into friendships for the sake of it. Poor friendship could cost you a life or reputation.
Pick a friend you know has some empathy and can advise and support you whenever you want. There is no logic in picking a friend who is there because of what you can offer, but, in return, he or she doesn’t have anything for you.
In this tough economic times, it is key to only spend your time on what is important. There is no time to waste on unnecessary things including friends who have no mutual benefit.
When we say friendship or good friendship, we dont just mean friendship where money matters. Money cannot always mean friendship because we have seen instances where people are lured with money and raped, some sodomized some conned or killed. So, a good friendship is not just about how much you can bring on the table. Or how much someone else can give. It is all about chemistry and support systems.
A good friend is someone who can come through during times of distress. A person you can call upon for urgent support and who can be found in the middle of the night when you need him or her. Never waste time on someone who hides when you want him or her and only resurfaces when you don’t want anyone at the time. People who only show up when you have money and vanish the moment you have nothing are not worthy calling friends. It is even much better living alone in your own corner without such individuals who look like parasites even if they not. Friends should be there when you want them.
And last but not least, build friendship carefully. Take time to learn someone’s character first before spending so much time on them with hopes that they can also help you, one day.